Ecología Humana

Molestarse, senitrse descontento con algo, enojarse, darse cuenta que las circunstancias no son precisamente como las tenemos en mente y por consiguiente tratar de modificar ya sea las circunstancias o ya sea el estado mental. Existen esas dos opciones para los descontentos, para los molestos, los enojados, desesperados e incluso para los furiosos hasta el artasgo.

La primera opción que es tratar de modificar las circunstancias es una opción viable para la gente considerada funcional dentro de la sociedad, conductas tolerables tendientes precisamente a eso, tratar de modificar las circunstancias para que el mapa que tenemos en la mente cuadre mejor con la configuración de nuestro entorno. Mientras estemos funcionalmente realizando actividades que permitan la realización del individuo como persona libre y feliz y que existan el ánimo o las ganas de seguir intentandolo, pese a la cantidad de inconsistencias, ironías, injusticias y aberraciones que existan en el medio circundante.

No conosco o no podría al menos yo concebir en mi mente una persona mentalmente sana que posea un mapa mental que contraste con lo que ve en la sociedad y que a pesar de ello se sienta feliz, satisfecha o tranquila, necesariamente si es un ser humano que busca la autorrealización (necesidad imperante del hombre) buscará hacer algo para lograr cuadrar sus mapas o estructuras mentales con lo que encuentra en el entorno en el que vive y se desenvuelve.

La segunda opción para individuos enojados, desesperados, desquiciados o maníaticos es modificar el estado mental, con terapias psicológicas, psiquiatricas, tendientes a llevarlos a optar por la primer opción.

La tercera opción que nunca debería ser considerada es el anulamiento existencial, es decir simplemente aislarlos del mundo de la realidad mediante drogas que "anestesien el cerebro", de manera que no permitan al individuo darse cuenta precisamente de ese constraste y que por consecuencia vivan como automatas, simplemente haciendo lo que las circunstancias soponen deberían hacer, que les permita vivir tolerando todas las incongruencias e inconsistencias que existan entre el estado mental y el mundo circundante.

Por todo lo anterior es muy importante cuidar la salud mental, hacernos responsables de los mapas o estructuras mentales que nos generamos a nosotros mismos, a nuestros niños, a nuestra juventud y en general a la sociedad. Esas estructuras o mapas mentales entre más ecológicamente humanas sean podremos vivir y mejorar el entorno y lo que es mejor, podremos mejorarlo a través de individuos mentalmente sanos que buscan cambiar circunstancias del entorno inadecuadas para la realización plena del ser humano o del individuo en cada sociedad.

Vergüenza (sentimiento). Ignominia

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Para otros usos de este término, véase Vergüenza (desambiguación).

La vergüenza (también llamada pena en algunos países centroamericanos y caribeños^[1] ) es una sensación humana, de conocimiento consciente de deshonor, desgracia, o condenación. El terapeuta John Bradshaw llama a la vergüenza "la emoción que nos hace saber que somos finitos".^[2]
Su sinónimo ignominia (del latín ignominĭa, cuya etimología remite a la "pérdida del nombre" —de in-nomen, "sin nombre"—) da a entender el efecto de una acción deshonrosa o injusta, términos de los que es sinónimo. La XXI edición del diccionario de la RAE la define como una afrenta pública, en el sentido en que constituye una ofensa personal que queda a la vista de una comunidad que la condena unánimemente. Por ello, la acción ignominiosa está relacionada con la desvergüenza y el deshonor de un individuo a quien las consideraciones morales le son indiferentes y que es consecuentemente objeto del descrédito general. Se suele emplear este término para denunciar una situación de injusticia, generalmente cuando se trata de la obra de un solo individuo que reúne cierta autoridad sobre una comunidad.^[3

Y coincidentemente me llega este artículo de Adizes que me parece relacionado de alguna manera a lo anterior:

"Sine ira et studio" (Without fear or pretentiousness) - Tacitus
The Fear of...Success You probably know, as I do, that fear of failure is a psychological concept. Do you ever wonder how that is possible? How someone can spend his life being afraid of failing? I have come across a different pattern of behavior, of people who fear success. Some of these men and women, particularly in the arts, were gifted. Often extremely capable and talented. For a brief moment, the world at their feet. But then they began to turn their success, almost deliberately, into failure. They created art, but when it was time to exhibit they retreated, maybe even destroyed their art. Why? One explanation: They were frightened of criticism, scared they would be judged a failure. And so like a self-fulfilling prophecy, they failed. You might say it was not fear of success. It was obviously a fear of failure. Ok, so let us try another example. A businessman I once knew invented a product that the market needed desperately. After the earthquake in Los Angeles, he came up with a new design for a fence that was flexible and pleasing to the eye. It could withstand any earthquake. And it was reasonably priced. Cheaper than anything else on the market. It took off like wildfire. More demand than he could handle. Orders almost overwhelmed him. Did he celebrate by consolidating and expanding his product line? By my raising the question, you already know the answer. No. What he did instead was use his newly found success to serve as an invitation to fight with his partners and destroy the company he had built into a success. And it was not the first time it has happened to him. Before that, he failed a quite successful construction company outside USA. In some strange way, he could not tolerate success. Failure was what he had learned to accommodate and expect. It was only by failing that he felt reassured. You could say that succeeding toppled his sense of equilibrium, his comfort zone. It made him feel unstable. Note that every animal has an environment where it feels most at its element. A swan would not like muddy water. Ox on the other hand, prefer mud. Give them a green meadow and they will start digging till they create the mud. Is it the same with people? Some people feel comfortable with success and very uncomfortable with failure. They will work hard to turn a failure into success. And there are people who feel at home with failure and if by some miracle they succeeded, they will work on turning the success into failure. Such people always seems to find a way to fail even when the situation appeared to lead to success. Their unconscious would take over and they would find a way to confirm what they already knew: they are a failure. This subject of being conditioned and then feeling most comfortable with that condition does not end only with fear of failure or fear of success. I know a man, a friend whom I am quite fond of, whose method of relating to someone is to start an argument... It is almost a reflex action. I suspect that it is ruining his marriage. It is also mapping his face with real wrinkles even though he is still young and quite attractive. Yet he persists. Why? Because he is used to fight. When anger takes hold I notice he feels in his element. It is, in a strange way, his comfort zone; the time when he feels natural and in control. In the case of my friend, a loving, relaxed atmosphere has always bothered him. The moment a conversation takes that turn, he begins to feel uncomfortable. The way he has learned to self soothe, to get over his discomfort, is to start an argument. That is his familiar territory and he knows best how to maneuver within it. So what ? Where is the insight? We are managers. Leaders. Not therapists. We are not here to change people. We are here to lead them, capitalizing on the best they have to offer. Human resource development is not to change people. It is to enrich what they already are. Hire people who are used to success and are very uncomfortable with failure. Best is to find a person who had a major setback in his life and overcame it to make it a success nevertheless. I am often asked to help change the style of a certain manager who is hostile to people. He hates people. Likes to work alone and only with his computer. "Please change him " I am told. ".You are the guru of change, so do it!" Sorry. Cannot be done. We can enrich a style. We cannot change a style. Psychological theory tells us that personality cannot be changed. We are born with who we are. Many people do not accept this theory and valiantly try to change their subordinates or leaders. The sooner you learn to accept what is, the faster you move to what should be. Sincerely, Dr. Ichak Kalderon Adizes Click here to comment on this article. Blog URL: http://www.ichakadizes.com/blog Ichak Kalderon Adizes, PhD. 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